If you have ever been so terrified of losing the upper hand that you sabotaged your own happiness, you will feel that "okay" in your bones. While the Nick/Frances dynamic drives the plot, the soul of the book is Frances and Bobbi.

Rooney suggests that romantic love is often just a practice run for the harder work of friendship. Frances lies to Nick constantly, but she hides her true self from Bobbi, which is arguably a bigger betrayal. You cannot talk about this book without talking about the lack of quotation marks.

But it is real .

They used to date. Now they are just best friends who finish each other’s sentences and perform spoken word poetry together. They are a unit. When Frances spirals into the affair, Bobbi is the one who gets hurt. The jealousy, the codependency, and the unspoken "what if" between the two women is far more complex than the heterosexual drama.