Most of us walk around with our abs clenched 24/7. It’s a stress response. We suck in our guts for photos, brace for bad news, and hold tension right in the solar plexus. Over time, that constant tension tricks your nervous system into thinking you’re in danger. Shallow breathing. High cortisol. Tight hip flexors.

I was deep in a rabbit hole about vagus nerve stimulation and diaphragmatic breathing when I stumbled across an old judo recovery drill. At first, I thought it was a typo. Then I tried it. And honestly? It was exactly what my tight, stressed, "always-sucking-in" stomach needed.

I learned this from a combat sports physio. Lie on your back. Knees bent. Take three slow, deep belly breaths. Then, using a soft fist or a rubber massage ball, you gently press—then release —into the soft spot just below the sternum (the solar plexus).

The first time I did it, I felt a wave of nausea for two seconds. Then? A sigh. An actual, audible sigh escaped my mouth. My diaphragm, which had been locked in a shrug for probably ten years, finally let go.

Turns out, sometimes you need to lean into the impact to find the softness underneath.